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Confused

feeds@yuku.com (kyla) — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 00:52:02 GMT

Ive asked my partner about getting rid of his alter, and he tells me that he and the alter have both tried to get rid of him( the alter) ,but since he does not go away, that hes keeping him forever. Does this make ANY sense ? My parter wont go to counceling.

Just wanted to say...

feeds@yuku.com (noelle) — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 15:08:09 GMT

Support people, you are awesome. We think we speak for just about everyone when we say that we don't know what we'd do without you. Especially when you know times are tough, but still stick around. That says so much to us...and, so, thank you all.

Guess we just wanted to say that ^__^'

Is it essential for my partner to get councling?

feeds@yuku.com (kyla) — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 22:43:21 GMT

My partner likes his alter, Im not a fan, but he never talks about it, and he does not want help. Does he need it? How do I find someone?

Worry about the future

feeds@yuku.com (kyla) — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 19:41:46 GMT

I worry about the future with my partner. Is it safe to have kids? Could they suffer from it? If we get married could that cause my partner to " disapear" and "Sean" to come out and ruin it during the serimony?"Sean" does not like me. Can a person be monogomus with them and their others all wanting relationships?

Rejection

feeds@yuku.com (dragonlady47) — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 10:58:44 GMT

My partner joined another forum because she knew how much I was getting from this one, and it was really difficult for her to do that... to talk... to be open... to reach out. She only posted sometimes - when she was able - it didn't come easy. But her littles enjoyed being in the games areas, and they were more comfortable with posting and made a few more posts. But because she hasn't posted often, she's been locked out of the littles sections, and her littles are so upset....

Short film

feeds@yuku.com (no1isin) — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 09:28:52 GMT

This is a link to a short film on You Tube .
In my experience this is the best thing I have found that would show what it's like for someone with d.i.d.
If we could get away from the medias sensationalized fantasy of what D.I.D is maybe there wouldn't be so much stigma, discrimination and misunderstanding about this coping mechanism

http://youtube.com/watch?v=OjTOs1L3SBg
I have reviewed this link and approve it. (Emily - founder)

I need some more advice

feeds@yuku.com (acguy) — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 16:23:37 GMT

Hi everyone. I posted about 2 months ago or so about my girlfriend with DID and the problems I was having. Briefly I will explain my situation again: I have been dating a woman who has DID, as well as other issues. We have been together over a year now. We have had our share of situations because of her DID but have gotten past all of them. I studied a lot about it and we all got along well! She let me meet some of them and others came to me on there own when they felt comfortable with me....

Sometimes I forget

feeds@yuku.com (dragonlady47) — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 10:21:57 GMT

Sometimes when things are going well, I can misunderstand how it's always still hard for my partner. As a singleton I really have no idea what it would be like to suddenly be back and wonder how you got home, and who took your shoes off when you got in and made that cup of tea. Because I manage to keep up with the switches and know who I am talking to and know as soon as they are there, sometimes before they are there... nowadays I am just so unphased by what is happening for my...

SO's parts are hurting other parts:(

feeds@yuku.com (StarrSO) — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 00:11:52 GMT

Been awake too long so I'm sorry if I ramble. Today I found out that an older male part of my SO...the only male part, was hurting the littles like my so had been hurt. I got really mad at him and got the other parts to kick him out of their house (inside).

I Got so mad at him when I found out that I took out all my anger that I had for my SO's abusers. I scared myself by what I did and he kept bringing littles out or my SO when I was scaring him so I would scare them. I...

my 3d sibling

feeds@yuku.com (deerstep) — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 09:44:18 GMT

My 3D sibling, has a very sophisticated, and problematic inner world and one part, he's feeling a lot of shame about, but we're fighting that, showing shame is not deserved. He's got an inner representative of me, who's in the 'courtroom', kind of an honour, the role I play (I stand up against unfair rules, biased system to defend victims-- my attack on the 'prosecution'-- the whole family is there, each member represented on both prosecutor and defender...

Looking for a good T in NY

feeds@yuku.com (acguy) — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 13:55:03 GMT

Hello everyone,
I was wondering if anyone knows of a good T in New York City that I can go and see. Im case anyone forgot I am an SO who has been in a relationships with a woman who has DID for over a year. Over the past two months I have seen her only twice and barely hear from her. I really need some help! I don't know what to do! I have been so upset over this. I know she loves me, I can feel it. And she tells me all the time how much I mean to her, I just worry when I...

Boundaries again

feeds@yuku.com (VereGolightly) — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 22:06:27 GMT

Hello everyone,

Just wanted to say that I've been reading and wanting to reply, but just have got a lot going on at the moment...it's been a stressful time lately, and it seems to just be getting more stressful...My grandmother passed away last month, I've been sorting out some debts that I incurred while in graduate school and am feeling overwhelmed by all that I am having to learn in order to handle it properly...and now my father has just been diagnosed with a more...

Attachment

feeds@yuku.com (dragonlady47) — Tue, 27 May 2008 13:40:50 GMT

I've been reading a book called Attachment, Trauma and Multiplicity and it's really got me thinking about my relationships with my partners little ones. I guess that all along I've been trying not to build a dependancy with little ones, rather I've been trying to encourage them to be a bit confident in making their own decisions and having their own opinions, and recognising the strength...

feeling helpless

feeds@yuku.com (forresst) — Wed, 21 May 2008 00:42:19 GMT

Hi.

My partner and I found this community last week. I've been reading many of the posts, particularly in the support people section as I'm the support person. We've had a relationship for over a year, and its been challenging. I try to help as much as I can but I know I am limited in what I can do to help. I feel lost, confused, and helpless much of the time. I get frustrated and often feel that I can't really talk to anyone about it. I have supportive friends, but...

Scared for my marriage

feeds@yuku.com (Physicist78) — Tue, 20 May 2008 10:21:38 GMT

Hello all,

I read and posted on this forum years ago and the advice I received was helpful and well appreciated. All has been well for a while but the last night concerned me. I would again appreciate any help I can get from the wonderful people on this forum.

First I feel I should provide some history. About 3.5 years ago, I was dating a wonderful woman. We had known each other for many years prior and had been dating for about 2 years. She had dissociative identity...

need advice

feeds@yuku.com (acguy) — Sat, 17 May 2008 10:26:34 GMT

HI everyone,
I am hoping I am able to find some help on this subject! I have been dating a woman who had D.I.D. for over a year now. And it's had it's up and downs. Mostly ups! But the past month she has been acting up so to speak. Actually she hasn't been around that much, One of her altars has taken over for some time now and she won't talk to me. (The Altar) So needless to say the one im dating is MIA! I worry about her so much. Sometimes they place her in bad...

He's stressed...

feeds@yuku.com (Shadowgirl114) — Mon, 12 May 2008 23:08:47 GMT

Guys... I think I need some more help.

My SO is seriously stressed at the moment. So am I... we're into our final year of school and we have exams coming up very shortly, so we're being overloaded with tests etc to try and cover the content before they start.

He's stressed and his mother is coming down on him like a sack of potatoes for only studying 3 hours after school instead of 5.

He's so easily confused right now... and the voices have been...

talking about DID for the first time

feeds@yuku.com (fathom that) — Tue, 06 May 2008 12:38:06 GMT

I am new here and I have a question that may have been discussed in another thread but I am not sure where to look. If you read my introduction in the section for new people (hello), you will know that I have been involved with a man for a year and it has become clear to me that he is dealing to some degree with DID. He doesn't remember things he tells me yet he does seem aware at times of other personality structures bursting forth, but he doesn't understand what is going on. I want...

Having a funny week...

feeds@yuku.com (dragonlady47) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 11:20:23 GMT

I don't know if this is the right place to post this.... I hope so!

Just wanted to let you all know that I'm having a bit of a tough week this week - feeling a bit stressed out because of a few pressures I have (non DID related), at work, financial, car troubles etc etc. The reason I'm sharing this is because I don't feel myself - I'm a bit anxious and at times exhausted, and...

How do I help my boyfriend?

feeds@yuku.com (Shadowgirl114) — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 02:58:55 GMT

(I already posted this in the Teens section but I was redirected here!)

Hello everyone,

I'm a 16 year old girl living in Australia and to get straight to the point, I am more and more thinking that there is a chance my boyfriend may have DID. I have done copious amounts of research and it all fits perfectly, the amnesia, the conversations in his head, childhood abuse etc etc. Unfortunately... I have six months or so before we can get him professional help -we need to...