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help please

feeds@yuku.com (frosty) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 10:14:46 GMT

ok I told you all that my friend let me meet a few other's. well she got drunk, and I made her promise me that she would not drink and take her meds at the same time, and she did promise, well then 2 days later guess what she was drinking again, when I confronted her on she said that I told her one or the other. I said you are right I did say one or the other, but you did both, she swears that she didn't' but she did not start drinking until after 5 p.m. so I know she took her...

Can't believe it: money problems

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 10:56:24 GMT

With all the money problems we have and it being so essential to our health to have it, our car died. At least 3000 dollars. There goes our entire savings, with 17k or credit card debt and more going out then going in. That actually was 3000 dollars of borrowed money. I just don't know how to reduce the expenses any more.

A particularly disconcerting therapy session

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:42:41 GMT

My wife was elated to talk with a protector who didn't want to go to therapy and was making it quite difficult for everyone. After having her agree to a new name, the alters seem to go quiet. But she discovered in her next session to her suprise one voice. One cursing her and yelling at her to not speak. When the therapist tried to speak to anyone, she yelled inside at them to not speak. It was extremely difficult for her. My wife was in tears because her therapist said if she...

Quiet Alters

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:13:09 GMT

Hi everyone.

I asked a simlar question like this before. But it is a little different. Why does it happen sometimes that all or most alters become quiet after being fairly chatty? Why does this go on for weeks sometimes. My wife has asked questions of them recently with no answer. I'm not sure what may be the reasons. I understand this may be difficult to know. Thanks for any thoughts.

Sincerely,

Ed

Latest Advancements in treatment?

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 11:19:51 GMT

Anybody know where you can get regular updates in new treatment for DID? I think the ISST-D site is great, but I still find it hard to search for something like that. Are they trying new things? I think the EMDR my wife is getting is fairly new and a trained therapist will know to go slow for DID. Anybody know anything? I just wonder if in a few years, the treatment will become even more effective. I think my wife for instance, is getting good treatment from many years of research and...

heys

feeds@yuku.com (ditzylotty) — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 20:15:00 GMT

It is a while since I wrote....pls read a whle ago n how scared i was maybe apr/may of last yr?

I am now engaged to my gf....the system/ insiders? /others?are just finding out.I have a good relationship/friendship with her main protector/ i call her my friend.... that knows all???

My gf and I are gay/ lesbian.....lots of questions from inside.....with respect......doing my best to handle. Looking for support?

Think I am lucky in my relationship within.........

Dumb Question

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 12:11:44 GMT

Has it ever been done that an SO husband has help a wife with DID and taken on the role to get to know all the alters so that each will know each other? This being the all so taboo idea of a family member helping with heal their loved one with DID. I know its so wrong for so many reasons, but if you can't find help, and have no other choice, someone may have tried. So tell me who has done this and how it turned out. What did people do in the wild west? They suffered, but of course the...

My poor wife's agry alter got her in trouble with therapist

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 07:16:48 GMT

Has anybody had this happen before. The therapist is not going to see her for a week to work out her feelings and getting supervision until next week. My wife is scared to death. This is the third therapist who hasn't seemed to be able to handle this alter. One was a borderline specialist and referred her. The second said she couldn't see her any more because of abuse. This time it seems to deal more with getting into her email account.

Any thoughts or suggestions may...

Angry Alters: importance and what to do

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 07:03:30 GMT

Hey guys,

I also found a good article that talks about the importance of angry alters as we have talked about them so much. I found it to have helpful information for me and wanted to share it:

http://www.toddlertime.com/dx/did/essay-did.htm

Ed

Good information journal

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:08:34 GMT

This journal/article is very informative on DID. I had it approved my a moderator here. If you like to take a look, here you go!

http://www.isst-d.org/education/Adult%20DD%20Treatment%20Guidelines-ISSTD-JTD-2005.pdf

Disturbed

feeds@yuku.com (Moon) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 15:15:41 GMT

So, I just got this very disturbing email from The Protector where he states, in writing, that the only reason he's going with me to the therapist is because he knows there is something very wrong with me, that he believes I have DID, and that he wants to do the right thing and get me some help.

THIS MAKES ME REALLY UPSET.

I know I just have to let it go, because other parts of him know full well what's going on, and this is just the opinion of the alter that's...

conjoined twins

feeds@yuku.com (Bobzilla) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 11:50:26 GMT

Just a thought that might "support the supporters". There are some really interesting biographies of conjoined twins that might be worth a read. These days society has decided that the death of one twin through surgical separation is preferable to living "as a monster". Throughout history these people lived very successful lives, had separate marriages, children, and even position of authority and respect. Our alters feel this way. One of the greatest fears I think...

How much change comes after years of good therapy?

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 10:50:13 GMT

I was just wondering if anyone had experience with years (or even just months). How much change will there be for the typical good therapy. I mean, should I be ready for a big personality shift over time in my wife? If that is true, I would like to know so I can be better prepared and also be open to big changes. I don't want to hold back any good therapy. I also am a liitle afraid, but I've learned that often just comes from something you don't know about. So that's...

Hi Everyone I'm Back

feeds@yuku.com (Alton) — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 19:50:00 GMT

I need to make a confession to everyone. As I am out of denial now completely. I was diagnosed in 2006 with D.I.D., then on top of it I fell in love with someone with the same disorder. Having him in my life has made me research desperately the disorder. I thought my T was nuts, no offense. Yet 3 weeks ago in the store, I saw myself switch and I could not control the alter that was out. This was my same experience in 2006 when I watched my body remove myself from by bother-in-laws...

Confused and could use a little help.

feeds@yuku.com (ToriJeany) — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 15:12:17 GMT

A very dear friend of mine has DID. It's no problem for our group to accept her. It doesn't bother us and we all still love her to death. Recently though, due to stress at home and school, her other personalities have been showing up more and more. We were watching a TV show dealing with home invasion. We started talking about a time when her home was invaded and all of a sudden she changed. Now, I know there are six different people in one with her. One of them is a baby, a teenager,...

Not doing well with the alters

feeds@yuku.com (Moon) — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 10:38:17 GMT

I haven't posted in a few weeks, because all the good sides of my guy were out and all wanted to go to therapy, because the veil had lifted with his DID, and he was really concerned and disturbed.

However, the therapist had to postpone the appointment for his own reasons, then my guy went on a business trip, and now he's come back in full blown PROTECTOR mode, is nasty as anything, says he thinks I'm delusional, that he thinks I'm making everything up because...

Does it help to say you love them

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 06:28:02 GMT

If I say "I love you" and tell my wife I love all of her and that includes her alters, is that good or helpful? I think of them as her inner family and it means I love her in her entire person to me.

Thanks!

Ed

What can I do for my wife's teen alters?

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:10:15 GMT

I read stories to the little one and she really likes it, then I say a good night prayer. Any thoughts as to what I can do for the teen alters? Some of them are mad at me right now and since one was suicidal, this is being thought of as an advancement. Currently, they are going to write letters to me. But any thoughts as to what I can do for other alters?

i found this

feeds@yuku.com (fivestars) — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 06:00:34 GMT

My hubby and I both read through and got different great things from this website, you may have seen it before:
http://www.op.net/~jeffv/so1.htm

it really helped me to read the humor bits, too... I need to laugh about this sometimes.
anyhow, thought it might help.
Laura

Link Approved by WeAll 10/10/09

My wife's suicidal alter is now angry

feeds@yuku.com (edd586) — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:39:59 GMT

I asked my wife what she thought as I was trying to console on her thoughts and flashbacks. I was worried as she was worried because the alter was having thoughts of hurting people. But it was true, her therapist agreed that this is an advancement. This alter was in the depths of depression and perhaps has been for 20 years when she first came to be. She was suicidal, I told her it wasn't her fault just like her therapist. These people did evil to her and it wasn't because of...